12.13.2006

Ahem...

To the subtle person who posted the following comment after Saturday morning's post:

"GIVE IT SOME TIME. IT IS TOO SOON!!!":

A of all, on-line etiquette suggests that writing an imperative statement in all capital letters is impolite.

B of all, if you feel strongly, stand by your words and sign your name.

C of all, I've been "without" a mentally functioning husband for nine months - almost ten. He's been dead for five months. Unless you yourself are a young widow/widower, perhaps you ought to refrain from judgment. If it's too soon, I'll know, I'll stop, and I'll try again another day.

D of all, I'm just trying to live my life, be happy, and feel alive and excited. It's either match.com or... I don't know.... heroin? Hmmm-hmmm... match.com not looking so bad anymore, huh?

16 comments:

Anonymous said...

To the super-judgmental Mr or Ms "Anonymous" -- get off your high horse, stop telling Danna how to live her life, and start worrying about the fact that you hurt her feelings -- you selfish prick/prick-ette!

Anonymous said...

Yay Danna. Heroin not so good. Dating better. Dating hotties even better.
--michaela

Anonymous said...

Wow. Amazing how opinionated some people can be. I can't imagine how anyone following your story would not want you to meet someone terrific who makes you and Baxter happy. What is up with that? It is much easier to judge people when you don't share their situation. And even if you do, YOU ARE NOT THEM SO bACK OFF AND GET A LIFE (sorry, Danna, I'm actually trying to be a little impolite there!) Danna- this may not help one bit, but as a teacher I have learned this- a third of the people I deal with love what I do, a third probably hate the way I do things, and a third could not care less. This includes kids, parents, and administrators. It's not what I am doing that's different- it's the way it's perceived by all these different people and personalities. You put yourself out there...hold your breath...do your best. It just has to be good enough. Anyway, screw people's opinions. We tend to me so much more affected by the negative than we are by the positive. Focus on the positive now. Oh, one more thing...there is a poem by Marie Howe called What the Living Do that I absolutely love and when I read it again recently I thought of you. Check it out. I have been following your story since your friend Cheryl told me about you and I think you are just amazing.
-Dina

Anonymous said...

well you've clearly reached blogger famousness now, right there with dooce.com, who devotes entire entries to the kind of repartee you unleashed on "anonymous". for example: http://www.dooce.com/archives/daily/12_07_2006.html

you have a lot of support, some of it from people (like me) you've never met. do what you need to do, and like you so wisely said, do what feels right.

-kim

Anonymous said...

Girl Please, I support you doing
whatever the law will allow (and a few things on the fringe). This is your journey and do what it takes to make it to the next place, as long as its not rehab.

As they say in the Kids Movie Finding Nemo "Just Keep Swimming".

-Robin, from the 'berg.

Lisa said...

Dana,
get out there and have some fun. You've had enough heart ache and you deserve to be happy. Don't listen to anyone, do what your heart tells you.

Anonymous said...

You of all people know how short life is and how precious it is. Carpe diem! Whatever makes you
live in the moment – go for it! Simple dating rejection is nothing compared to what you've been through.
You can handle anything!

CSM said...

Whoever posted that must be a conservative republican who also doesn't support gay marriage & abortion rights. Puhleeze.

ANYONE who knows you a) wants you to be happy, b) knows you are smart enough to know what you are doing and c) trusts you when you say you are ready.

As you so concisely stated, if it's too soon YOU'll know. Key word being YOU. Anyone who tries to tell you how to feel or think or act isn't someone who is your friend or who should be your friend. And if that's the case-- fuck 'em.

Can you tell that I am pissed???

CSM

Anonymous said...

Danna -
This is unrelated to anything here, but as a lover of comedy, I thought you might enjoy this find: www.mesofunny.com.

Hilarious.

Much love,
Ron

francine said...

I wonder if "anonymous" just didn't read the whole blog entry and only read the early parts before Danna was "feisty"....(I tend to blame everything on poor reading comprehension). :)

PS. I'm still excited for you Danna. I think it's great that you're in a place where you can think about dating someone new.

dizzlepop said...

Danna, I do not know you but have found myself reading your story for many months now and you are someone I wish I did know personally. I say good for you. What is there a manual out there that says how long you should wait or not wait to move on with your life? Move on, move forward doesn't mean forgetting. CSM stated that person must be a conservative republican...right on. And that person probably doesn't masturbate either. It's funny, I don't even know you and that post pissed me off.

Anonymous said...

Hey buckaroo...

As someone eminently (and unfortunately) qualified to answer this conundrum I say do what feels right. It's been much shorter for me and I think I'm ready to date again.

It sucks. It's the king of all sucks, but it is what it is. I know firsthand you don't want to have to do this. I don't want to have find someone new, I want Angela back as you want Mike back. But that ain't happening now is it? We both thought we were done with all this meeting someone and dating bullshit. But sadly that's not the case sister. It's just beginning. Again.

Just don't force it. Let it happen. That's what happened last time and that's what made it so special.

I'm proud of you. Oh so proud of you. You've walked ahead of me every step of the way and have shown me how to deal with this with strength, dignity, courage, and hope. That and the fact it's OK to be horny. ; )

Kirk

Jalena said...

First of all, someone spammed your blog a couple of times. Now someone wants to offer advice without the guts to sign their name. Hmmm.

Once again, you go girl. Do what you think is best. That usually works just fine.

Anonymous said...

not to mention that anyone who knew mike knows he would want nothing more than danna to be happy and get up and keep on moving forward. and soon! he would want nothing less. we all trust you danna...and at the same time we know that you are enough and wise and secure enough that you don't need "approval" from anyone. xoxo, t

Anonymous said...

..."must be a conservative Republican"... hmmm...

Let's just say this: not all Republicans are evil, and many Democrats are. Both sides suck pretty much equally, and all you rah-rah liberals who for some reason think that Democrats can do absolutely no wrong, and that all Republicans are the scourge of the Earth, need to take a long hard look at the cold facts of reality.

(I am neither, but it annoys me to no end to hear both sides talk like their shit doesn't stink.)

Sorry, Danna - I think that person was completely wrong to say something like that to you, but I think CSM is EQUALLY wrong to make an umbrella statement like that as well.

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