Sunday, May 14, 2006
[Photo: (L) Mother's Day card with message from Mike - obtained with the help of Susan Murphy, though the writing is from Michael himself. It reads: "Happy Mothers Day, Mike PS: I love you." I cried a very good cry upon reading this card this afternoon. (R) Baxter Newland wearing his beloved "Taggie" (Thanks, Anne and Michael!) as a hat.]
Happy Mother's Day, everyone - and thank you for all the nice mothers day notes.
Today Bax had a nice, but brief visit with Mike. Jonathan, Anna, Tresa and I drove to the hospital with Bax and we met up with Tom and Mary there. Nurse Suzette got Mike all washed up, put on a normal polo shirt and hospital pants and wheeled him out to the hallway. Mike is affectively rather flat, but you can see a delayed response of happiness when it comes to Baxter. Bax doesn't act weird around Dada at all. He sees him and says, "up!" meaning he wants to be on his lap. Bax then sits on Mike's lap and Mike just kisses his head over and over and closes his eyes and rubs his cheek on Baxter's red hair. It's really beautiful.
Bax was a little nut, running all around, loving the attention of friends and strangers. I crouched down in front of Mike and said, "Your son is being crazy." And Mike pointed to me and said, "No. Your son is being crazy." We then kept saying it back and forth, escalating to, "Your son is mad crazy whack, yo." Mike got tired very quickly and we got him settled into his room again and grabbed some brunch.
This evening we had a lowkey gathering at the house with all the family members in town - it was really nice. I am looking forward to tomorrow's graduation ceremony, but Mike will not be there. It is just too much for me, for him, for everyone. He would need an ambulance and a nurse the whole time, and between his catheter and other needs --- I just couldn't get my head around it.
Besides - tomorrow is a graduation ceremony, but the envelope I'll be receiving is empty - no diploma. It's not my official graduation - which doesn't occur until I defend the dissertation. In my estimation, my dissertation requires about 2 solid weeks (meaning about 100 hours or 2 months in current Danna time) to be completed. When it's done and defended, I'm throwing a huge party and Mike will certainly be there.